Caregiving Wife & Psychotherapist Shares Her Insights of Caring for Her Terminally Ill Husband
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Diana Denholm, Psychotherapist and author of The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook/Caring for Your Seriously Ill Husband, Caring for Yourself shares her insights after a career of 30 years during which she spent 11 years of caring for a terminally ill spouse.
More than 30 million women are caregivers for an ill loved one. When that dying loved one is your husband, the day-to-day matters of life get to be a challenge. These include your role in their care, your own self-care, your ongoing life, household management, sleep, sex and intimacy, changes and strains on your marriage that you weren’t prepared for—and let’s not forget current and future finances, to name a few. Bottom line: Caregiving can damage people and marriages.
Medical psychotherapist DIANA DENHOLM, PHD, LMHC, has created a valuable guide for women who are struggling with the multiple challenges of being a caregiver to their husband or partner. In The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook: Caring for Your Seriously Ill Husband, Caring for Yourself (Hunter House Publishers), Dr. Denholm presents a six-step process to help women problem solve with their husbands in order to make their own lives simpler and their marriages better.
Although there is a lot of information and help available for those “final days” and the grieving afterward, this is the only book that offers practical written instructions for making life work during the long months and years wives face as a caregiver.
For 11 years, Dr. Denholm was the primary caregiver to her husband during a series of grave illnesses. Drawing from her own experiences and those of six real-life caregiving wives interviewed for this book, Dr. Denholm offers readers creative ideas, inspiration, and lots of practical tools they can use to deal with the most common issues women face when their husbands suffer from a protracted illness.
Readers learn how to:
- Broach awkward but important subjects, such as his hygiene, your sexlife, and meddling relatives.
- Know whether your caretaking actions are keeping him weak or are appropriate to his real needs and abilities.
- Manage difficult emotions, such as anger, guilt, annoyance, grief, stress, and resentment.
- Navigate around common obstacles, including driving, eating, hygiene, and financial and legal matters.
- Take steps to bring more balance, fun, and free time into your life as caregiving wife.