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November 2011 – Managing Incontinence

You may have noticed a change of logo. We decided to let people know that it was about more than about mothers. Originally I chose the name because of my experience caregiving for my own mother. Many fathers felt left out and we didn’t want that. Now everything will be transitioning over the next year to the new logo in time for my upcoming book, Blueprint for Care, which will be released in 2012.

Managing Incontinence

Urinary Incontinence affects twice as many women as men but it is a life limiting condition when it happens. Many people become afraid to leave their home for fear of an embarrassing accident.

Incontinence is not considered a normal part of aging. . Often, family members may decide that it is too much of an issue for them and move their loved one to a senior residence. However, it is treatable.

Incontinence Is Not A Normal Part of Aging

Incontinence is not considered a normal part of aging and usually has an underlying medical cause. Many older adults are hesitant to tell their physicians unless asked directly. Incontinence can increase the risk of falls.

Studies have been done which indicate that those who have incontinence can be circumvented from having accidents by training to go immediately after eating each meal and upon arising in the morning. If the person finds that they are re-arranging their lives for their incontinence, then it is advised that the doctor be informed so that appropriate tests can be conducted to find the source of the issue.

There are many forms of incontinence. As women age, their pelvic floor muscles weaken. This can cause stress incontinence, where leakage can occur with a sneeze or the urgency may become more acute. This is how falls can occur…when they run to the bathroom and fall in the process. Urge incontinence is caused by bladder contractions which causes the bladder pressure to exceed the urethral pressure which controls the urine loss. Many times it is associated with central nervous system disorders such as Parkinson’s or stroke. Sometimes there is a mix of both types of incontinence. Finally, there is overflow incontinence where the bladder does not contract adequately or there is an obstruction due to enlarged prostate, pelvic organ prolapse or urethral stricture.

If the incontinence is not frequent, it may be controlled by light pads. Your doctor may suggest Kegel exercises which involve tightening the pelvic floor muscles repetitively to increase muscular control. However, if the cause is more difficult to control, there are products available that can be purchased locally or over the internet and delivered to your home. Some products come like an adult diaper; others more like a ‘brief’. There are different sizes and higher absorbency available for night wear. It is important that the person maintain cleanliness; keep dry and wear a cream barrier to keep skin from getting irritated. Some conditions may require surgery and medication. Your doctor will be the best person to advise you of what you require.

Incontinence can cause aggravation and embarrassment but it need not be life limiting. Find out what you can do to minimize the condition by contacting your physician and getting the appropriate tests. Then you will be free to think about what you want to do instead of your incontinence controlling what you are able to do.

8 Tips for Speaking to Someone with Dementia

Caregivers and family members get frustrated when trying to communicate with a loved one who has dementia.  Here are a few pointers from Diane Keefe, Geriatric Care Manager, for talking to your loved one.  Click on this link:

How to Age Successfully

How to Age Successfully – August 2011

Caring for Parents Together Newsletter

Tips for Aging Successfully

This newsletter is dedicated to how to age well to maintain the quality of life every person dreams of as they move into their later years.  It is important to realize that we are living longer than ever before.  The life expectancy for men is 75.7 years and for females, it is 80.6 years.  A prominent St. Louis geriatrician, Dr. John Morley, said that up until 60 years, it is all about how you lived your life and took care of yourself.  After age 60, your genetics become more influential.  Most people today can expect to spend some time in rehabilitation but will then return home.  The majority will not have to enter a facility and will remain in their homes.

Stretch and do moderate exercise to avoid injury

There are many proactive steps that you can do to age well.  These are the important ones:

  1. Maintain a positive outlook on life
  2. Be proactive about preventing disease
  3. Prepare financially for living longer
  4. Expect to stay active or work past retirement
  5. Exercise at least 30 minutes per day  ‘Use it or lose it’ still applies.
  6. Control weight through good nutrition and portion control.  i.e. 2,300 calories for males and no more than 1,900 calories for women

There are a number of tips for improving your nutritional intake.  Monitor your Body Mass Index.  It should be 23 for men and 21 for women.  Increase healthy fat intake with omega-3 fatty acids and unsaturated fats but eliminate trans fatty acids.  Avoid corn syrup-sweetened foods. Check your food labels.  Eat foods as close to natural form as possible and try to buy locally grown foods.  This insures that you are used to the bacteria in the area you live. Take antioxidant supplements in bio-available form. Reduce sodium intake. Take supplements designed for eye health and get screened regularly.  Increase calcium intake and eat a high fiber diet.  Limit eating out because you have no control over the ingredients used in food.

Avoid smoking because the end result is emphysema.  Stay away from acoustic trauma to hearing that results from concerts and using ear plugs.  Maintain oral health because teeth are the window to major diseases.   Brush, floss and get regular dental appointments.  Limit alcohol to one drink per day for women and two for men.  Alcohol can interfere with medications so check with your doctor first.

Keep current on vaccinations.   For older adults, make sure to be current on Tetanus, flu, pneumonia, and shingles.  Many older adults who have had shingles develop damaged nerves that cause severe chronic pain.

Keep your brain active and adhere a philosophy of lifelong learning.  Sudoku, scrabble, reading, crossword puzzles and other word games help to keep your brain challenged.

The social aspect is extremely important.  If you are experiencing depression, see a doctor.  Depression can bring on dementia.  Reach out to others when help is needed.  Maintain social relationships and activities…volunteer to help others.  Aging well is about adapting to changing conditions.

Recognize the connection between body and mind.  If you keep hope for a better outcome, it will likely follow and you will do the activities to make it happen but if you give up, then your condition will only go downhill. Develop a spiritual base upon which you can rely when there are setbacks.

Last but not least, connect with your inner child and enjoy life!  Get a hobby or learn a new skill.  Have you observed someone who decides they are old and sits around in their recliner?  That is not living!  Living involves staying curious and interested in life…being open to new experiences and new relationships!  Live life abundantly and well!

Senior Housing Options

Many Alternatives for senior housing exist today

There are more options available to aging adults than ever before.  When the WWI/II generation was growing up, there was only nursing homes which were essentially skilled nursing.  Since that time, it has evolved to include:

Independent Housing - This type of housing is similar to a condo arrangement but in a neighborhood of other similarly aged residents.  Activities and meals are often offered. Residents typically still drive and take care of themselves.  They are socially active.

Assisted Living options were designed to help those who are losing their ability to take care of themselves and may need assistance with activities of daily living such as toileting, transferring, bathing, dressing, assistance with eating, incontinence, medication administration, meal preparation and daily checks.  Continue reading

Criteria for Selecting Senior Housing

Select Senior Housing with Care

Before helping an older adult find housing, have them write down what they want out of a residence setting.  Each residence has its own personality and finding a match for the potential resident is imperative to their future happiness.

Make sure they have a list of their financial assets because that information will be needed during admission.  Also bring along a copy of the Healthcare Power of Attorney and Advance Directive.  Provide the address and numbers of anyone that should be contacted during an emergency hospitalization.  Who will be the advocate for that person?  The person who does advocate for the individual resident will be able to attend monthly Care Plan meetings with staff. This will give an opportunity to address special needs and desires of the resident. Continue reading

Stroke Symptoms & Rehabilitation – May 2011

Stroke Symptoms and Rehabilitation, June 2011

Caring for Parents Together Newsletter

Stroke Symptoms and Rehabilitation

Mr. R. was at a fireworks display and when he decided to leave, he was unable to stand. He seemed to have lost his sense of balance and his friends were very concerned. He thought he was experiencing a hemorrhagic stroke in which a blood vessel bursts and bleeds into the brain. It was the first of 7 strokes for him.

Another time, I walked into a client home and the caregiver, 32, was telling me that she had numbness down her left arm. She was encouraged to go to the Emergency Room but refused. Since I had other errands in the area, I suggested that she call me if she changed her mind. Ten minutes later she called. While I tended to the client, she went to the ER and discovered that she had a blood clot (ischemic stroke) inches from her heart. Her condition turned out to be genetic.

Research is now indicating that mini-strokes are an indication that a major stroke could be on its way. If you experience a momentary loss of consciousness, you may be having a mini-stroke.

Signs of a Stroke include:
 Numbness on one side of the body
 Paralyzed face muscles
 Slurred speech
 Blurry vision
 Loss of memory
 Difficulty moving
 Sudden dizziness, weakness, difficulty walking, loss of coordination and balance.
 Severe headache for no known reason

Anyone can help perform a quick test for stroke by asking the person to:

  1. SMILE
  2. Speak A Simple Sentence
  3. Ask them to raise both arms.
  4. Ask them to stick out their tongue. If it is crooked, they are having a stroke.

What should be done when someone is having a stroke? Call 9-1-1 or emergency services in your area. It is critical that the person be seen in the hospital within 1-3 hours (sometimes called the Golden Hours) in order to reverse the damage. Beyond that, the damage may be permanent.

What are the effects of a stroke? It depends on the person and the type of stroke they have. It also depends on other health conditions they may be experiencing and what part of the brain has been affected. Some patients are paralyzed on one side; some experience aphasia, a speech impediment in which the patient is trying to communicate but it comes out scrambled and unintelligible. Strokes often affect balance and coordination.

Are you at risk? You may be if you have high blood pressure, smoke, have diabetes, and/or high blood cholesterol. Being overweight and not exercising puts you at risk. If you have been told you have heart or artery disease, have experienced mini-strokes (TIA) or have abnormal heart rhythms, be aware that you are more likely to have a stroke.

Mr. R. had been trained as a chiropractor. He understood what was happening. He began to rehabilitate himself by working on his balance. He would place himself in a hall that was clear of obstacles. Then he would try to stand with his eyes closed. He next attempted to touch his nose. In the beginning that was difficult. Then he practiced walking with his eyes closed.

To work both left and right brain, he utilized a Super Yoga technique in which he placed his left hand on his right ear lobe and then he placed his right hand on his left ear lobe. With his eyes closed, he slowly bent his knees and lowered his body a little and then slowly came back to starting position. He repeated that, eventually working from 1-5 minutes at a time. This technique works both left, right brain and balance.

With his particular strokes, he experienced fatigue; inability to carry through on tasks; sensitivity to any stress; and nerve damage in his arms. Initially, he was very intolerant to hot and cold temperatures. Slowly the nerves began to revitalize themselves. He now has more feeling in his arms. He began to eat a whole food diet and stopped smoking and drinking. He still has good days and bad days but he is functional and enjoying life. Each day is now more precious.

Stroke Rehabilitation today has come a long way. According to Jennifer Gamble, Stroke Program
Coordinator of the Rehabilitation Institute of St. Louis, every stroke and every patient is different. Rehab technology may utilize different equipment to stabilize different conditions. Some current therapies include:

  1. Auto ambulator – This equipment has robotic legs that are strapped to the patients’ legs to help with the motion of walking. Research has shown that by practicing the patient’s normal gait pattern, it retrains the neuropathways in the brain and rebuilds muscles.
  2. REO – Occupational Therapists use REO equipment to aid patients to regain range of motion. Either the machine can guide the patient or the patient can use the robotic arm to touch the screen to move the machine.> > >
  3. Experia – Utilizes vital stem (electrical stimulation) and has a biofeedback component to strengthen throat muscles. Many stroke patients lose their ability to swallow and have to rebuild those muscles.
  4. Augmentative Communication devices include: a. I pad b. Touch screen c. Computer screen.
    Depending on their level of impairment, patients may be able to use a laser like pointer to tell the computer what they want to say. The touch screen device allows the patient to indicate what phrase they want to say and it says it for them.
  5. Free water protocol – Trials are being conducted that are yielding good results in helping patients to swallow again. They have to be on ‘No food or water’ status.
  6. Aquatic Therapy – A patient must be continent and have no open sores to use aquatic therapy but it yields great results as muscles are strengthened.
  7. Bioness- This equipment is used on either the foot/ankle or the hand/wrist as a vital stim for those muscles to facilitate motor return.

Ms. Gamble says that she has seen amazing success with some patients. A patient may come into the Rehab Center with a tube for water and food, bed ridden or can’t sit up, and then later walk out on their own.

Medicare as of June, 2011 pays for in-patient rehab. The length of stay is dependent on the patient’s diagnosis and how much assistance they need in the first three days after they are admitted. They use FIM scores to indicate how much assistance is needed. Other co-morbidities may influence how long Medicare will pay. Two to three weeks is a typical stay for acute stroke rehab although the rehab process can take months, even years.

As has been mentioned previously, the sooner a person gets in to be seen, the better. Technology will break clots in many instances. If it happened over- night, they may not be able to undo damage.

Medicare also pays for home health therapies. Once patients are discharged, they will continue to be seen by an occupational, physical therapist or speech therapist dependent on their impairments for up to 6 weeks to ensure continued progress.

The final thought I would like to add is that I have seen patients who had a severe stroke make a comeback. As prevention, eat a low fat diet; exercise both body and brain and stay socially active. These factors will improve your chances for staying functional and experiencing a higher quality of life.

For more information about the Rehabilitation Institute of St. Louis, go to http://www.rehabinstitutestl.com..

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Alcohol Use in the Elderly

Alcohol causes more problems as people age

Alcohol use in the persons 65 and over is notable for several reasons.  First, the older person has a diminished capacity to handle alcohol and what he/she was able to handle  when they were younger no longer applies. Secondly, because older people often have multiple medical conditions for which they are being treated, it can be dangerous to mix alcohol and medications. For instance, aspirin use with alcohol can cause excessive bleeding; acetaminophen and alcohol can cause risk of liver damage.  Allergy medication and alcohol can cause sleepiness, making it risky for older people to drive. Thirdly, as people age, they are subject to losses, changes in life arrangements, medical conditions and surgeries which create stress.  Alcohol and depression are relational, meaning that alcohol can contribute to a person’s inability to handle the situation and deepen the depression. Continue reading

Driving and Vision in the Elderly

Older drivers and young drivers compete for the most traffic crashes and fatalities

According to the Transportation Research Board, older drivers have more traffic crashes and fatalities than any other driving age group except the youngest drivers.  By the year 2020, it is estimated that there will be 50 million people over the age of 65 falling into the elder driver category.  Why are older drivers so prone to accidents?  Visual acuity and peripheral vision declines after 65.  Only about one-third of the light in the retina is received in the eye compared to a 20 year old.  Other troubles like cataracts and other age related eye diseases seriously impede vision.  A driver with cataracts is 2.5 times more likely to be involved in accidents as his counterparts without cataracts.  Add to that night time driving conditions and the risk becomes higher. Continue reading

Guardianship

Guardianship provides for an elder who can no longer take care of themself

Guardianship is a legal term used to denote a person who is taking care of the personal concerns of an individual in the event that they become incapacitated.  A guardian may be appointed by the individual while they have capacity in the form of a legal document often called a Healthcare Proxy or Healthcare Power of Attorney.  Secondly, the individual may give an institution, such as a bank trust department or an attorney, the authority to handle personal and financial matters upon their incapacity.  Thirdly, if no one has been appointed, the court will appoint a guardian.  Each state has different rules about how guardianship is handled.  Guardians are required to account for every penny spent on behalf of the individual to the courts annually. Continue reading

My Firsthand Experience with Alzheimer’s

When a Loved One Has Alzheimer’s

My mother had Alzheimer’s. It began with little strokes called TIAs where she would have numbness and tingling down one side of her body. She didn’t realize what they were. She was in the generation where women were not assertive so she did not tell the doctor’s assistant why she was trying to get in to see him. By then it was too late and she continued to have these TIAs.

Often dementia follows after a vascular event. If Alzheimer’s symptoms were present when the vascular event occurs, it weakens the body enough to trigger the dementia.

When her neighbor across the street from her died and her best friend across the block had passed, she no longer had people close to check on her. She was furious when we insisted that she move into an assisted living center. For one month, my brother and I were persona non gratis. Then she went back to the home she had lived in for over 42 years and realized she was glad that she no longer had the responsibility.

After her strokes, she continued to drive. She lived out in the country. She had a blind spot on her right and so she would only go on trips where she could turn left. We were terrified that she would hit a jogger or child riding a bike but she didn’t. During the last year, she did have three accidents. She was beginning to get lost on previously familiar routes. When she moved into the assisted living center, they provided transportation and so there was no need for her to drive. The car sat in the parking lot for a year before my brother bought it.

Difficult Behaviors

Mom became overtly sexual in a way that she never had before. She talked about it openly and it was out of character for her. She also began to drink wine. She would have ‘only a little bit’ but 15 minutes later, she didn’t remember that she had already had a little bit and she would have more. It masked some of her pain, I believe. This happened at a time when she was on oxygen all the time. We found wine bottles hidden throughout her apartment. She would just go to the grocery store and buy more. Her psychologist recommended giving her a little drink every night before bed. That way she could still have some.

Many times she would be frustrated and angry and say “Parts of my life are missing!” In the beginning she knew that she was losing her memory. She was depressed and felt like her control over her life was slipping away from her.

Later, she became more complacent. She couldn’t remember anything to make her agitated so she focused on what she appreciated about her family.

We found that anything hidden behind the door in the refrigerator or in the cupboards or drawers were as good as gone. She did not remember them. Eventually, we had to remove the coffeepot and have the oven unplugged because she couldn’t remember to turn it off and we were afraid she would start a fire. In the end she could not even change channels on the TV so she watched the same channel all day.

She couldn’t remember that we had come to visit her even if we had been there the night before. Finally, we placed a calendar by her bed with instructions that anyone who visited had to write their name in on the day so she would know that they had been there.

I had come for a 3 day visit in-between jobs and stayed with her. During that time I noticed that she was always scratching her face. It was dry so I purchased some moisturizer. Her nose was bleeding from the constant oxygen. The nurse suggested vasoline placed on her nose membranes to act as a barrier. Her toe had a fungus that had not been noticed by the nurses. I tried to soak her feet in vinegar which is good for removing fungus.

Saying ‘Goodbye’

During my visit I noticed that she was getting more and more tired. At lunch she was practically falling asleep in her plate. I walked her down to her room and she laid peacefully on the sofa. The intake nurse came in to take her vitals as she was being placed in a higher care facility. The nurse said, “Your mother’s blood pressure is only 80/40.”

“What does that mean?” I asked. She replied that protocol was that you sent them to the emergency room so I called 911. An ambulance wisked her off to the hospital. She had pneumonia but had shown no outward symptoms. I remember saying to her, “Mom, I just need to know that you are going to get better.” The truth was, it was only going to get worse.

Once she was treated, she moved to the long term care facility. Within a week, she had a massive stroke and was in a coma for 2 weeks. All of my brothers and sisters were there day after day and she even began to rally a little. The one day that we took a breather and didn’t show up to the hospital was the day she died.

Knowing what I do now, if the intake nurse had given me alternatives, I might have called my brothers and sisters and said, “Mom is getting ready to pass. Come say your goodbyes” However, nurses are trained in the medical model which is to cure. When one reaches a certain age though, there is not going to be a cure and it is important to let go and give them permission to go.

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