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Crisis Management

6 Reasons Why You Should Never Go Into the Hospital Without An Advocate

Advocate for Loved Ones

Advocate for Loved Ones

Here is why you should always have an advocate when in a hospital or facility:

1)  Change of shifts among healthcare workers often results in lack of knowledge about what happened during the last shift with patient care and condition.

2)  Someone needs to observe what is going on with the patient as they may not be conscious and able to self-report.

3)  Lack of communication between staff and patient  i.e. not understanding medical jargon, protocols & procedures.

4)  Medication errors because of administration errors or lack of information about what the patient was taking before.

5)  Plan for discharge and report what conditions the patient will experience upon returning home.

6)  Someone to collaborate on the discharge instructions and help the patient to implement them upon returning home.

7)  If the patient has dementia, they need someone to be with them at all times.  There is not enough hospital staff to do that.

 

First Steps in Helping Older Adults

When Your Parents Begin to Need Your Help, What First Steps Should You Take?

Parent needing help

Parent needing help

  1. Visit the Area Agency on Aging for your area.  To find your Area Agency on Aging, go to www.n4a.org and input the zipcode of the area where your loved one lives.

  2. Ask your loved one what will support them in living a higher quality of life?

  3. Get a complete medication list together with the name of the prescribing doctor, name of the medicine, amount and how often taken.

  4. Ask your loved one what insurance they have.

  5. Ask them to tell you what doctors they have seen and when their next appointment is scheduled so you can accompany them.

  6. Find out what hospital they would like to use and make sure it is in their insurance network.

  7. Find out what legal work they have completed and who is named as the Healthcare Power of Attorney.  Have they filled out an advance directive?  If not, visit an elder law attorney to get this work started.

Risk Factors

Watch this video on Risk Factors Indicating Your Loved One May Not Be Safe At Home Alone!

Patient’s Bill of Rights

Congress initiated a Patient’s Bill of Rights in 2001.  The Senate passed the Bill of Rights which included an enforcement portion, however the bill failed when it went to the House of Representatives. 

 

The Association of American Physicians and Surgeons adopted a list of ‘patient freedoms’ in 1990 which was modified and adopted as a ‘patients’ bill of rights’ in 1995.  All patients should be guaranteed the following freedoms:

  • To seek consultation with the physician(s) of their choice;
  • To contract with their physician(s) on mutually agreeable terms;
  • To be treated confidentially, with access to their records limited to those involved in their care or designated by the patient;
  • To use their own resources to purchase the care of their choice;
  • To refuse medical treatment even if it is recommended by their physician(s);
  • To be informed about their medical condition, the risks and benefits of treatment and appropriate alternatives;
  • To refuse third-party interference in their medical care, and to be confident that their actions in seeking or declining medical care will not result in third-party-imposed penalties for patients or physicians;
  • To receive full disclosure of their insurance plan in plain language, including:
  1. CONTRACTS: A copy of the contract between the physician and health care plan, and between the patient or employer and the plan;
  2. INCENTIVES: Whether participating physicians are offered financial incentives to reduce treatment or ration care;
  3. COST: The full cost of the plan, including copayments, coinsurance, and deductibles;
  4. COVERAGE: Benefits covered and excluded, including availability and location of 24-hour emergency care;
  5. QUALIFICATIONS: A roster and qualifications of participating physicians;
  6. APPROVAL PROCEDURES: Authorization procedures for services, whether doctors need approval of a committee or any other individual, and who decides what is medically necessary;
  7. REFERRALS: Procedures for consulting a specialist, and who must authorize the referral;
  8. APPEALS: Grievance procedures for claim or treatment denials;
  9. GAG RULE: Whether physicians are subject to a gag rule, preventing criticism of the plan.

 

Holidays Are An Excellent Time to Observe How Your Loved Ones Are Doing

While you are visiting during the holidays, you may notice some signs that your parent may be struggling.  This issue is dedicated to informing you of options in helping your parents keep their independence and autonomy as long as possible.
First Place To Visit
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The first place to visit when you feel your parent may need some help is the Area Agency on Aging.  Visithttp://www.n4a.org/ to get access to
information available to seniors.  It was originally formed to help older adults through the journey of aging as an initiative of the Dept. of Health and Senior Services.  TheAAAs offer care management, information and assistance, adult day services, senior centers, Meals On Wheels, respite services, assistance during the Open Enrollment period of Medicare options, tax assistance, legal assistance and more.
Caregiver Tip No. 1  Arrange Help 
Help select and arrange services to help your parent remain in their home such as yard maintenance, home repair services, gutter cleaning and housekeeping assistance.
As adults age, they may not feel as comfortable driving in inclement weather but still may need to make that trip to the drug store or grocery store.  There are many places that deliver now, i.e. drug stores, grocery stores, dry cleaning and laundry stores.  Check to see what is available in their area.  Offer to take them where they need to go or hire someone to do it.  This may be a way to earn money for a grandson or granddaughter who has not had their license that long and needs the experience of driving.  They will be less likely to drive recklessly with an older adult in the car.
Caregiver Tip No. 2
Complete A Home Safety Checklist
Fear of Losing Autonomy and Independence
Older adults are afraid of losing their independence and autonomy.  They are fearful that if someone notices that they are not able to handle their own affairs, their children will take over and they will
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no longer have any control.  Their fears are not unwarranted.  Many children will come in and just take over.  This makes an older adult feel helpless and unneeded.  They need a sense of purpose.  What can they do now with changing conditions?  Sometimes, just having supports put in place can make a difference.
8 Tips for Being Pro-Active As a Family Caregiver
  1. Discuss what they will do when they can no longer drive
  2. Discuss how they will pay for care when they need more assistance
  3. Talk about how you can support them in being independent.
  4. Inquire about what makes their life worthwhile.
  5. Develop a Plan for maintaining doctor, dental, eye, hearing and other necessary visits.  Who will accompany them?
  6. What legal documents have they put in place to manage their life when they can’t.
  7. Talk about the strengths they have that can help them get through tough times.
  8. Ask what they would like you to do to help them stay independent?
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Caregiver Tip No. 3
Develop An Emergency Plan
Website that guides you in creating an emergency preparedness plan. http://www.redcross.org/prepare/location/home-family/seniors
Concerned But Don’t Live Close By?

If you don’t live close, hire a Geriatric Care Manager who lives in their area and knows all the resources.  They will conduct an assessment and give you an accurate picture of how things are working out for your parents as well as what they will need from you.  You can then decide how to proceed.  Go tohttp://www.caremanager.org and input your parent’s zipcode to find a Care Manager in their area.

You may also want to pick up a copy of the local Older Adult Resource Guide.  The Area Agency on Aging or United Way will know where to find this information.

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Your Parent Targeted by Telemarketers?

4 Steps You Can Take to Safeguard Your Parent

My brother was forever cancelling subscriptions for which my mother who had early dementia had signed up.  One time we found Rolling Stones magazine in her assisted living apartment.  Here are a few tips you can use to safeguard your parent from over zealous telemarketers:

  1. Place your parent’s phone number on the federal DONOTCALL.gov Registry.
  2. Teach your parent to ask them to take him/her off the list.  Telemarketers are schooled to make conversation to older adults who are often lonely and just want to talk to someone.  Once they get their trust, they talk them into all kinds of worthless stuff.
  3. Place your parent on www.dmachoice.org which will reduce the amount of junk mail they receive.
  4. School them to discuss any major change in investments or insurance before making a move.  This may prevent salespeople who are just trying to earn a commission instead of truly serving the client from taking your parent’s money.

The elderly are targeted all the time because they have money and they are a vulnerable population.  Don’t let that happen to your parent or loved one.

Being ‘Under Observation’ Costs You More

Medicare Rules Are Encouraging Doctors to Increasingly Use ‘Under Observation’ Status

Studies by researchers at Brown University in Rhode Island are showing that since 2007, doctors have kept millions of patients ‘under observation’ instead of admitting them.  This means that patients are paying more out of pocket and the number of days they are in the hospital under observation means that it does not qualify toward the ‘number of inpatient days in the hospital’ required before Medicare will pay for nursing home care.  Medicare will pay up to 100 days in a nursing home but that is very atypical.  Currently, they pay for less than half of that.  It means that patients are going to have to pay for more of their own care and they will go home sicker.  This suggests the need for in-home care for a short period of time while they recover—another out of pocket cost.

Doctors are being more cautious about who they admit and are willing to classify as inpatient, perhaps in an effort to avoid negative Medicare audits targeted at number of admissions.  The Rub:  Patients admitted to hospitals pay less than those whose status is ‘under observation’. Because Medicare rules state these individuals are “outpatient”, their co-payments are frequently considerably higher. And they may be turned down for care in nursing home facilities if they require it.

What can you do?  Talk to a hospital advocate if you feel you are being unnecessarily kept under observation.  Call your doctor if you are being treated by a hospitalist.  If you don’t get satisfaction there, contact your attorney to see if there is a way they can intervene on your behalf.

How to Assist Your Aging Parents Without Intruding

Notice That Your Parent Is Not Quite Together?

As you sit around your family table during the holidays, you may observe that your parent is just not operating the same way they used to. Maybe they are more forgetful or rattled. You may notice mail stacking up or the house isn’t as clean as it used to be. Ask yourself, ‘Are they safe at home alone?’ You may conclude that you should offer to help but before you start to take over their affairs, consider getting the situation assessed by a professional. Ask your parents if there are some things that you could do to help. Suggest that it is alright to hire some of the tasks out now. In fact, volunteer you and your children to come over once a week to visit and help out. This not only gives the children a sense of being helpful and needed but also provides time with an older adult for some intergenerational bonding.

Fear of Losing Independence and Autonomy

Older adults are afraid of losing their independence and autonomy. They are fearful that if someone notices that they are not able to handle their own affairs, their children will take over and they will no longer have any control. Their fears are not unwarranted. Many children will come in and just take over. This makes an older adult feel helpless and unneeded. They need a sense of purpose. What can they do now with changing conditions? Sometimes, just having supports put in place can make a difference.

Lack of Visitors

Many older adults have few visitors. The people they have associated with in the past are aging too and may not drive any longer. Just one visitor a week can make a difference and give them something for which to look forward. I can remember visiting an elderly neighbor when I was a child. She would set out magazines for us to cut pictures and make collages and posters. We would have a creative afternoon with her with cookies and KoolAid. It was fun for us and she looked forward to it as well. As I have moved around the country with my family, the substitute grandparents made a big impact on my children. Older adults have much to offer and stories to tell. Teens will often bond with an older adult when they are at odds with their own parents. Set up regular visit times so they have something to look forward to doing.

Job Jar

If you truly want to help, ask them to make up a list of things that would be a big help to them. Then choose the tasks that you can do and make a set time when you can do them. Some tasks that may have been easy in the past are no longer easy for your parent such as cleaning out gutters; raking the lawn in the fall; trimming trees and completing some repairs. Keep them involved as much as possible and allow them to do as much as they can. Treat them with the same dignity and respect that you would want.

Fear of Driving

As adults age, they may not feel as comfortable driving in inclement weather but still may need to make that trip to the drug store or grocery store. There are many places that deliver now. Check to see what is available in their area. Offer to take them where they need to go or hire someone to do it. This may be a way to earn money for a grandson or granddaughter who has not had their license that long and needs the experience of driving. They will be less likely to drive recklessly with an older adult in the car.

Concerned But Don’t Live Close By?

If you don’t live close, hire a Geriatric Care Manager who lives in their area and knows all the resources. They will conduct an assessment and give you an accurate picture of how things are working out for your parents as well as what they will need from you. You can then decide how to proceed. You may also want to pick up a copy of the local Older Adult Resource Guide. The Area Agency on Aging or United Way will know where to find this information.

Common Scams Target Older Adults

Three Common Scams Used On Older Adults

Older adults make a lucrative target because many of them own homes; have pensions; receive Social Security benefits and are often isolated so they want to talk to the caller.

Here are three common scams:

  1. The Grandparent Scam – Caller from abroad claims that grandson has been arrested or had an accident and needs money.  They urge the grandparent to send money to get them out of their predicament.
  2. Scammers pose as soldiers who have been serving in Afghanistan.  They call  grand-parents requesting money to come home.
  3. Scammers tells the person they have won a lottery in some other country and they need to send money to receive the prize.  They may even send a fake prize check.

If they collect the bank account number, they clear out the balance of the account.

Older adults make good targets because they are often less sophisticated about technology and financial schemes.  They are also alone and lonely so they are happy to talk to someone.

What You Can Do to Protect an Older Adult:

  • School them on what information they should never give out.
  • Tell them what to say to get someone off the phone!  ‘Take me off your list.  I am on the No Call list’
  • Place their number on the State and Federal No Call list.

Tips to Prevent Identity Theft

  1. Change your passwords frequently
  2. When doing banking online, always close your browser afterwards to clear your information.
  3. Never give out personal information over the phone.
  4. Protect your social security card number.
  5. Lock up personal information around service workers and caregivers.
  6. Check your credit report quarterly.
  7. Scrutinize account statements carefully.
  8. Shred unwanted credit card solicitations.
  9. Make a copy of all credit cards and keep in your safe.
  10. If you get a call from someone claiming to be from your bank, ask for a case number and call them back.  Call them using the number on your statement or credit card.
  11. Minimize the number of cards you carry.
  12. Use credit cards rather than debit cards.
  13. Mail all bills from a post office mail slot or mail box.
  14. Don’t leave your purse, wallet or checkbook in the car or trunk.
  15. If you have a computer network, password protect it so someone outside your home cannot gain access.
  16. Shreds financial documents once you are through with them.
  17. Never click on links that claim they are from your bank.
  18. Utilize caller ID to verify where the caller is initiating the call.

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